Just Like Me – A Healthy Approach to Difficult People

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”

~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Just Like Me – A Healthy Approach to Difficult People

Little children are sometimes the most difficult people we ever have to deal with. Children can be demanding, whining, temperamental, and unreasonably rude. Yet, most of the time, we find the patience, love and wisdom within us to connect with them in a gentle and compassionate way.

At some point all of us have met up with difficult people. These people may be children, family members, neighbors, employers, or all of the above. Whoever they are, they have one thing in common – they push our buttons.

We may consider a difficult person as someone who doesn’t see things our way, or doesn’t do things the way we do. (Understand that there is a difference between the garden-variety difficult person and an abusive person. If you are in a relationship with an abusive person, seek assistance on what is your best course of action regarding this relationship.) In more general circumstances when we encounter a “difficult” person and it is hard for us to see his/her true nature, we can say the following:

(S)He is just like me, doing the best he can.

(S)He is just like me, seeking to be happy.

Just like me, (s)he deserves understanding and compassion.

I have come to the conclusion that we don’t have to take massive steps to create total understanding and a loving relationship with this person. When we release our need for another person to change in order for us to be happy, we have accepted the responsibility for our own actions thus creating space for the power of the Universe to provide love and understanding within us.

 Let’s give love and understanding to those in our world today.

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2 Responses to Just Like Me – A Healthy Approach to Difficult People

  1. larryboatman says:

    Thank you Sally for these wonderful thoughts. Hope it’s OK that I passed them on to the other people in the Thursday morning group Jim and I are in.

    Have fun TODAY! Hug someone tight TODAY! Make a positive difference in someone’s life TODAY!

    Blessings,

    Larry Boatman REALTOR ® CDPE ®
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  2. margsret tearman says:

    You are once again demonstrating the extent of your generosity and the size of your heart. Both considerably bigger than mine! I sdmit to avoidance wheneverv possible! bad I know,.

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