“Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards. When people ask me what really changed my life eight years ago, tell them that absolutely the most important thing was changing what I demanded of myself. I wrote down all the things I would no longer accept in my life, all the things I would no longer tolerate, and all the things that I aspired to becoming.” ~Anthony Robbins, American Advisor to world leaders
What are you tolerating? What in your life right now creates resentment, causes stress and completely drains your energy, in other words, simply slows you down and keeps you from being and doing your best? Do you realize that those things also have the potential of causing disease and damage to your body, mind and spirit?
A coaching class I took several years ago had us invest a lot of time exploring our tolerations with the whole idea being that as long as we had a list of things we were tolerating and thereby allowing to drain some of our greatest resources – our energy, enthusiasm and focus, we could take control!
So, let’s discuss a few things you may be tolerating and some steps you may take to free up yourself!
- Make a list of the things that you are just putting up with in your life! Take a close look at all parts of your life at work, at home, and in your leisure time and be brutally honest with the things that don’t serve you.
- If your calendar is absolutely full to running over you most likely do not have any room to add those things that would bring you joy and success. I would venture a guess that there are some things there that you really don’t find value in. What could you eliminate from your calendar today to free up some time for the good stuff? Most of us have to eliminate some of those things from our life that no longer serve us in order to make room for the things that really excite us and will fulfill our lives!
- It really is okay to put yourself first! There is absolute magic in the word “No” – don’t be afraid to use it liberally and in a gracious manner.
- Oops, I know I heard someone say “But I feel so guilty not helping when people ask.” Again, it is critical to take care of yourself first and not allow guilt to load a burden onto your shoulders. A very gracious way to decline the request for assistance is to simply indicate you are unavailable and then suggest someone or a service company who could step in. And, yes, you will encounter people who keep pushing and trying to wear you down, perhaps even getting a bit angry that you have said no. Remember that they own their reaction which truly has nothing to do with you personally.
- If you keep a small notebook nearby you will be able to list any toleration you notice on a daily basis as you are creating your “No Tolerations Zone”. Filter any task of the day against how important it is that you complete it right away … remember, your goal is to create valuable time for yourself and your family.
Becoming aware of the tolerations in your life gives you a tremendous sense of control over your life ~ take the steps today to more freedom!
My wish for you is that you never again feel the need to say
I Can’t Stand That Anymore!!!